I really try not to "bitch"
about my family problems. Maybe it’s not actually "family" problems more than
"my" own problems!
about my family problems. Maybe it’s not actually "family" problems more than
"my" own problems!
My life has become consumed
with "doing" for others (namely my clients and that’s my job)……but also my
Mom. Now this doesn’t bother me, even if she does need more help from her
family then most people her age. But maybe not…….maybe I just think so.
She’ll be 80 the end of this month and has more things wrong with her than
anyone her age or younger should have to experience…….all at the same
time!
with "doing" for others (namely my clients and that’s my job)……but also my
Mom. Now this doesn’t bother me, even if she does need more help from her
family then most people her age. But maybe not…….maybe I just think so.
She’ll be 80 the end of this month and has more things wrong with her than
anyone her age or younger should have to experience…….all at the same
time!
You know she broke her hip
last August and was diagnosed with Lung Cancer last May. Along with that she is
a Type 2 Diabetic, has a really screwed up back (she has one of those humps, not
huge, but there) consisting of crushed vertebrae and such, a not-so-good ticker
(triple by-pass in 2001), neuropathy in her feet (constant pain to the point her
feet are sort of numb but she can stand) and she had Cellulitis while in re-hab
from the broken hip which has cleared (so they say) and now she has something
called Lymphedema which has her legs so swollen it hurts me to look at
them.
last August and was diagnosed with Lung Cancer last May. Along with that she is
a Type 2 Diabetic, has a really screwed up back (she has one of those humps, not
huge, but there) consisting of crushed vertebrae and such, a not-so-good ticker
(triple by-pass in 2001), neuropathy in her feet (constant pain to the point her
feet are sort of numb but she can stand) and she had Cellulitis while in re-hab
from the broken hip which has cleared (so they say) and now she has something
called Lymphedema which has her legs so swollen it hurts me to look at
them.
She had the RFA (radio
frequency ablation) done but her 6 month PET Scan showed that the cancer was
back. We have decided to use Radiation this time. She has her first treatment
tomorrow. Her cancer is in the First Stage and the tumor is small. Lots of hope
for the radiation treatments getting this tumor.
frequency ablation) done but her 6 month PET Scan showed that the cancer was
back. We have decided to use Radiation this time. She has her first treatment
tomorrow. Her cancer is in the First Stage and the tumor is small. Lots of hope
for the radiation treatments getting this tumor.
Now that you know all of
this I will get to my point……the part where I "bitch"!
this I will get to my point……the part where I "bitch"!
My brother and myself have
taken her to every doctors appointment. Took turns visiting her in the hospital
and re-hab. My brother even had her stay with him for 2 weeks before she went
back to her apartment. We pick-up her prescriptions. Get what she needs from
Walmart (personal stuff) and what ever else comes up. I have rearranged my
schedule and even worked Saturdays to take my Mom to an appointment during the
week. My brother has done the same.
taken her to every doctors appointment. Took turns visiting her in the hospital
and re-hab. My brother even had her stay with him for 2 weeks before she went
back to her apartment. We pick-up her prescriptions. Get what she needs from
Walmart (personal stuff) and what ever else comes up. I have rearranged my
schedule and even worked Saturdays to take my Mom to an appointment during the
week. My brother has done the same.
We asked our sister to do
Moms grocery shopping once a week. That’s it……that’s all. Out of the past 6
weeks or less that she’s suppose to do this she has asked me twice to do it. Now
she has said that she’s just too busy and will look into hiring
someone to do the shopping! Too busy? She’s a stay-at-home mom…..all 3 girls
are in school all day…..they are 9, 10 & 11 and can do many things for
themselves…….she rarely has a clean house or laundry all done and she
doesn’t go to a "job" every day!!!! I know, being a mom and wife is a
job……for most……not my sister because her life is consumed with Girls
Scouts and anything else she can get involved in that will make her look good to
all the other parents at the school. Really, I’m not kidding. As far as her own
Mother, sister or brother are concerned, we are of no concern.
Moms grocery shopping once a week. That’s it……that’s all. Out of the past 6
weeks or less that she’s suppose to do this she has asked me twice to do it. Now
she has said that she’s just too busy and will look into hiring
someone to do the shopping! Too busy? She’s a stay-at-home mom…..all 3 girls
are in school all day…..they are 9, 10 & 11 and can do many things for
themselves…….she rarely has a clean house or laundry all done and she
doesn’t go to a "job" every day!!!! I know, being a mom and wife is a
job……for most……not my sister because her life is consumed with Girls
Scouts and anything else she can get involved in that will make her look good to
all the other parents at the school. Really, I’m not kidding. As far as her own
Mother, sister or brother are concerned, we are of no concern.
So……this has eaten away
at me and I really don’t know what to do. I can’t talk to her anymore because
she actually makes me sick…..mentally mostly. That’s not a good thing for me.
I "stew" on the way she has no feelings or thoughts about how she treats her own
Mother. She didn’t even know Mom was going to start Radiation until I took Mom
for her second appointment for the "set-up" on the machine. I can’t talk to her
because she justifies everything she does, or doesn’t do, in some way. She
really thinks she’s in the right! And no……it’s not her way of "dealing" with
things. She hardly knows what "things" are going on with Mom. I feel so bad for
my Mom.
at me and I really don’t know what to do. I can’t talk to her anymore because
she actually makes me sick…..mentally mostly. That’s not a good thing for me.
I "stew" on the way she has no feelings or thoughts about how she treats her own
Mother. She didn’t even know Mom was going to start Radiation until I took Mom
for her second appointment for the "set-up" on the machine. I can’t talk to her
because she justifies everything she does, or doesn’t do, in some way. She
really thinks she’s in the right! And no……it’s not her way of "dealing" with
things. She hardly knows what "things" are going on with Mom. I feel so bad for
my Mom.
But I do know that "what
goes around comes around" and my sister is setting the example for her own girls
right now and I’m sure she doesn’t even realize it. I truly believe that at some
point in her life she will be treated the same and I have to tell you, I’m
totally okay with that!
I’m sorry, but she’s been approached by family to
make amends with her Mother before she no longer can. She doesn’t do it…..she
doesn’t help…..she leaves everything to my brother and myself. That’s okay, I
just hate that my Mom knows about all of this.
goes around comes around" and my sister is setting the example for her own girls
right now and I’m sure she doesn’t even realize it. I truly believe that at some
point in her life she will be treated the same and I have to tell you, I’m
totally okay with that!
I’m sorry, but she’s been approached by family tomake amends with her Mother before she no longer can. She doesn’t do it…..she
doesn’t help…..she leaves everything to my brother and myself. That’s okay, I
just hate that my Mom knows about all of this.
Okay……big breath
out…….I feel somewhat better now.
out…….I feel somewhat better now.
Thanks for listening…..if
you didn’t leave after the second paragraph! LOL
you didn’t leave after the second paragraph! LOL
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Colleen 
